Watching My Wife

When Monica and I first started swinging and playing in the lifestyle I had a lot of apprehension around what it would be like watching her with or knowing that she was with other men.  Understandably, I'd never been involved in a swinger relationship before (nor had she) so no amount of "I think that I am cool with this" was going to really answer the question as to whether or not it would actually be comfortable or even enjoyable.


Now that we play regularly I can honestly say that watching another man have your wife can be fucking hot.  Seeing other men become insanely aroused wanting to do her, her getting down on her knees to please them as they thrust into her mouth and then her laying on her back, legs in the air and another man's penis plunging deep into her pussy as she pulls him onto her wanting more and more is, simply, amazing.  Sharing your wife offers a lot of potential enjoyment between watching, participating and the ancillary benefits of better, wilder and more frequent sex outside of the sharing itself.


I think one of the keys of good sharing is learning to find pleasure through your partner's pleasure.  I don't have to be the one getting directly pleased, that Monica is getting off is enjoyable for me.  And likewise she love knowing that a cute girl is giving herself over to me to have my way with.  She enjoys me enjoying sex with someone else and I enjoy her enjoying it.  And that lets us enjoy it with each other even more.  It is important that you revel in each other's conquests (or in them being a conquest) and enjoy it not just for yourself but as a team.  It keeps sharing from being something that you are "ok with" to something that you actually enjoy.


When Monica is having sex I want her to be more submissive, get slammed harder, get stretched more and put out like a crazed slut not because I want sex with others to be better than it is with me (I'm confident that it is not, different, but not better) but because I want her to be fulfilled.  There are so many ways that other men can do things that I cannot. No man can do and be everything and I don't want her to be limited to just me.  In the same way she does not want me to be limited to just her.  She's the best sex that I ever have but if we only had sex together there is so much variety to be missed.  I was to experience women of all types, all personalities and in a variety of settings and scenarios.  Monica can never be my one night stand, she can never be the girl who meets me for the first time and immediately gives me a blow job in the back seat of the car.  But she can be that for other men and other women can be that for me.


And then... just watching Monica go at it is like having my own, personal live porn show.  Can't complain there.  You can't pause but it tends to last for hours and you can jump in and partake at any time.


Am I surprised that sharing my wife ended up being so much fun and so satisfying?  Yeah, no doubt.  I had thought that I would be okay with it, but actually enjoying it was a surprise.

Lonely with Threesome

Monica is out of town for a while so I am stuck home alone, um, taking care of myself, if you will.  While you might think that this would give me an extended opportunity to go out and do some playing of my own, in reality that doesn't happen very much.  Without Monica at home I am less motivated to go out and more likely to pop in a video game or just chat online.  I seem to lose motivation.


I am not totally unmotivated, however.  I spent one of my first nights home along hanging out online seeing who was out and about.  I ended up chatting with a girl who suddenly said, "I can't get together tonight but I'm really hoping that we can get together soon.  I've been wanting to get with you for a while."


That took me by surprise.  Turns out I was talking to the female half of a couple that we know, online, by way of one of our friends with whom Monica plays.  He had told them about us and they were interested in getting together.  He wants Monica, obviously, and she wanted to get with me.


It didn't take long before things went from talk to action.  That first night she was too busy for us to get together but the very next night they contacted me and asked me to come right over because she was horny and needed servicing.  I wasn't exactly expecting any action that night but figured that passing up an opportunity is never wise.  Especially an opportunity that comes with references.  So I quickly got ready and ran on over there.  They live not far away.  Less than twenty minutes.


We ended up having a really good time just hanging out.  They are serious swingers with an outrageous sex setup.  Inflatable bed in the living room, big screen television above the bed setup to show a combination of live sex chatting (done from a laptop) and live sex cam shows.  Plus couches ready to go with protective coverings for a variety of sex positions in one easy to use room.  Very nice, but not so discrete. There is no hiding what activities go on here unless you have some warning to clean everything up.  But very nice for stopping by for fun.


We ended up getting along famously and talked for several hours.  We were getting along so well that we almost forgot about having sex.  Well, okay that is a bit of an exaggeration but we did take way too long getting around to it.  It was probably ten when I got over there and easily one in the morning or later when we did anything more than just sit around talking.  That's too long from "Hey I'm Steve, nice to meet you" to "and look, now her panties are on the floor."  I need to work on speeding up that process in the future.  A little less talk and a lot more action is a good motto.


To get things transitioned from talking to action, she got up off of the recliner that she had been sitting in and moved over to the bed in the middle of the living room, making clear space for me and making eyes at me to indicate that she wasn't just heading over to take a nap.  I think part of the mistake was that she was in a recliner and I sat on the couch and the combination kept us too far apart.  When Monica has a guy over they take the couch so that they can "inch closer" and I take the easy chair.  Let's them work up to it more easily. Instead whenever he and I were talking I ended up practically having my back to her.  That did little as a warm up situation.


Once she was on the bed, still fully clothed, I moved over and sat beside her.  We were all still chatting but this gave me a chance to start running my hand up and down the back of her thighs as she was laying on her stomach on the air mattress.  It was easy to tell that she liked the feel of my hand on her thigh and I have to admit that her thigh felt pretty good too.  A quick slip up her shorts confirmed that she was, indeed, enjoying me touching her.


Once I had verified how moist she was, she instantly stripped down and was ready for some immediate action.  I started undressing as well. He stripped down but stayed on the couch with his laptop.  He said that he had to work but he was distracted between chatting with people online and watching me getting busy with his girlfriend.


Now this is a first for me.  I'm not sure if this really qualifies as a threesome as there are actually only two parties involved. So this is more of girlfriend sharing with a voyeur for the most part.  Or like a threesome where he sits out the whole time.  So I'm not sure if I was actually a bull in this situation or not. I guess I am not yet down with all of the possible terminology to easily define exactly what the situation was.  But regardless, this is a new scenario for me. 


Monica and I have been involved in a lot of MFM threesomes this past year but in every case I am always the husband and the "home town" team.  The other guy is always the visitor.  It is always me sharing Monica.  This was the first time where I was the visitor to another couple and she was being shared with me.  It wasn't too awkward at all, we've been doing this long enough that that is no problem, but it was different, to be sure.


I fingered her a bit and she was certainly enjoying what I was doing.  That is one thing with Monica, no matter how long we have been together, I just don't have the skills to slip my fingers in and drive her wild quickly.  It just doesn't happen.  But most any other girl I am with I just slip a few digits in and I apparently have the right moves to drive them crazy.  Monica can get off to me fingering her but it takes a long time and quite a bit of work and she does not enjoy it nearly as much as other things.


Once we were both naked and she was in the throws of delight I slipped my dick into her mouth and went down to lick her pussy.  Some quick sixty-nining laying on our sides with me semi-propped up so I was sort of on top but more beside her.  We didn't do too much oral.  She was ready for penetration pretty quickly and I was hardly going to complain.  I prefer oral the most but no one does it like Monica so I get all of the amazing oral that I want whenever I want.


In a flash I was on my back and she was aggressively mounting me.  I had thought ahead and had condoms with me so we sheathed my penis and lickity split (pun intended) she was on top letting it slip up into her as she slid down my pole.  She had no issue taking the whole thing very quickly.


She did a great job riding me cowgirl for quite a while with him watching from the couch stroking to us fucking.  She liked it hard with me grabbing her hips and thrusting very hard up into her as deep as I could get it.  A bit violent..... grabbing her around the waist and pulling her down onto me while I tried to see just how much penetration I could do.  


After a while she flipped and moved to reverse cowgirl.  Reverse is a lot more work but ads the enjoyment of getting to really watch what is going on.  You get a lot more view than, say, even doggie style.  I worked hard to keep up the deep, powerful thrusting that was making her so happy.  That is rather a challenge to do in that position.  But I enjoy the position as a change of pace.  


After some time on the bed we wanted something a little more forceful so we got up and moved over to the edge of the couch and bent her over.  He held her head down on his lap while I got up behind her and took her from behind.  And took her hard from behind.  It was exhausting keeping that thrusting up.  But it was good.   She came a lot.


We took a breather because I was sweating hard and needed a few minutes to cool down and collect myself.  I grabbed a whiskey and she went for the chair.  But before I could cool off she had passed out and was asleep.  She had come several times so no problem there.  I had done my job.  I didn't cum myself but I had had a very good time and could finished myself off at home.  It was nearly four in the morning and way too late to go for anything additional so we called it a night.

Catching Up, Getting Comfortable

Wow, we have been terrible about keeping the blog up to date.  Since our last updates we have been playing rather extensively and traveling extensively too (no connection between the two) and keeping the site updated just fell to the wayside. At least one or two of our "real life" readers commented on the lack of updates so I am attempting to rectify that, even if only to a slight degree.  Party why we fell behind is because Monica had updates to provide and I felt that she needed to write those before I wrote stuff that happened later and then, once we had fallen behind... well... it just snowballs on you.


I'll do my best to coax Monica into filling in more of the details of her escapades.  As expected, she has had many more than I have but we have both been having a very good time.  We have hit a sort of rhythm of regular playing at this point with mostly regular people.  While hitting a "rhythm" might sound not so exciting, and certainly makes writing updates a little more difficult, it is anything but pedestrian.


Much like sex with a new partner - where at first it is hot because it is new and later it is hot because it is good because you have learned how to please each other - sex with others seems to have a similar pattern.  There is a partner by partner pattern of getting better at being with each other as habits vary pretty widely between "players".  One wants to kiss, one doesn't.  One is wham bam and out of there, another wants to stay and hang out.  Some want condoms, some don't.  Learning who is who and how they operate and what makes them comfortable and not moves you from "nervous and new" to "comfortable and experienced."  New is good, comfortable is generally better. The advantage of this lifestyle is that you need not sacrifice new for experience.  We get to have both.


Beyond the partner by partner pattern there is a more general pattern of becoming comfortable in the lifestyle.  Meeting new people becomes less and less scary and awkward and soon you settle into a "this is who we are when having sex with other people."  You know who you are and how you behave.  You get an idea of what to expect from other people.  As you become more comfortable they become more comfortable.  Soon you move from "playing in the lifestyle" being new and scary to it being comfortable and you get better at it.  We are already into that stage.  And it is much better.

First Guest

Since we had been talking to Tyler for a while and met him a few times, we decided he would be a good candidate for our first house guest.  I decided to go for casual sexy, so I chose skinny jeans and a v-neck top for his visit, and paired it with a sexy black lace thong and black bra.  When Tyler arrived, we mixed him a drink and then he and I retired to the couch while Steve got some work done.  It was seconds before we were all over each other and full out making out on the couch.  In no time, my pants were unbuttoned and Tyler was rubbing me through my panties.  He murmured about how wet I was then kissed me again.


I wanted to be naked so I took Tyler by the hand and led him to our bedroom.  He was a man on a mission though, and had me naked and on my back on the bed in no time flat.  Once I was in position at the edge of the bed, he knelt on the floor between my legs and began licking my pussy.  For an hour he licked and fingered me and brought me to the brink of orgasm over and over, but I never actually came.  During that time, Steve came in, took a shower and joined us on the bed, but I was in such a haze of pleasure, that I'm not sure how long we were at it before he came in.  Eventually Tyler gave up and let Steve take over.


While Steve licked me with the expertise that comes from over a decade together, Tyler got on his knees above me and began to fuck my mouth.  He came pretty quickly, and then sucked and played with my nipples while he watched Steve lick me until I came in a body-thrashing rush.  Steve licked me for several minutes while I came and came and came, and Tyler got to witness one of my orgasms, at last.


When I was finally done, Tyler got up and left, because he had an early day in the morning.  Steve flipped me over and put me up on my hands and knees and then fucked me from behind until he came.  In a nice change of pace, we went to bed just after 1 am, both thoroughly satisfied.

Monica and the Magic Phone

If you watch How I Met Your Mother then you might know an episode in which Barney goes to the Super Bowl and manages to get on national television holding a sign with his phone number on it.  The number belongs to a cell phone and shortly after the Super Bowl the phone begins to ring... and ring.


What starts off as the most amazing idea to meet women ever turns into a curse as Barney is trapped believing that each successive caller may be hotter and more desirable than the last.  He can never be happy with the woman that he is with because the next one might be better and there is an unlimited number of women calling.  So rather than enjoying any of them he spends all of this time trying to be sure that he selects the best one.


It would seem that for Monica a similar situation is playing out. Being an active player who is actually meeting guys (and girls) makes her a very hot commodity plus we are far younger than the average swinging couple, do a lot more and with cleavage like that, well, there is just bound to be some interest.  There is so much interest, in fact, that she is completely overwhelmed by the constant deluge of guys looking to get with her.  The guys come in all shapes and sizes, from multiple countries, different states, all kinds of ages, you name it.


Don't get me wrong, this process is very interesting and we have been meeting a lot of very cool people.  But the culling and vetting process is becoming a little cumbersome as we have so many potentially good people to sift through.  It is certainly hot finding out that there is a practically limitless number of guys (and many girls as well) who are very, very interested in boning my wife and I am, apparently, very envied.  But it creates a very odd situation.


Effectively, with minimal effort, Monica could be meeting a new guy every single night.  Potentially more than one a night - as fast as I would be able to screen them.  This causes no end of potential problems.  Swinging and our lifestyle can very easily become a completely consuming activity using up every possible waking hour.  Between time spent finding new people, gaining their interest, putting in the time to determine if they are worth pursuing, doing an initial screening, then the more meaningful meeting and then finally getting together - well easily we could be doing nothing else.


For me, as you would imagine, finding women or even couples looking to play is extremely hard.  I am finding some but I sure do not have the queue that Monica does.  She is really having fun with this, though.  Can't deny that.


So now the challenge for Monica is going to be figuring out how to cut back and leverage the harem of men that she has already amassed rather than spending all of her time trying to find new people with whom she will never have time to meet up.  - Steve

New Pictures for January

Monica wanted some new pictures taken this weekend.  Both she and I have been dieting heavily this year and every few weeks we need new clothes and now, new pictures. This is our second round of pictures of her since starting the diet.  The diet has been going great and we have both lost a lot.  Next project will be pics of me since we are asked for them all of the time.  Soon, I promise.  In the meantime...

Steve's First Night Out

When we first started "playing", Monica and I were unsure where we were going to stand on the same room / separate room decision. Monica was leaning towards same room while I was leaning towards separate room but no final decision had been made.  At that time we were thinking that primarily our activities would be limited to swapping with other couples and the question seemed pretty obvious.


Fast forward to now and what we have found is that finding couples with whom to swap is hard but finding singles interested in one or both of us is, relatively, easy.  So our questions and decisions are now being made from a very different perspective than the one we originally imagined.


If you have been reading the blog, you will be aware that we have been heading down the "play alone" path for some time ever since Monica began meeting guys ahead of our play sessions to give them head in anticipation of the "main event."  A few weeks ago I finally got the chance for my own playing alone fun.


It was with my friend that I met online in "A Surprise Meeting", we had put our playing on hold for the holidays but we were both available now and Monica was able to stay home with the kids so that I could go out and play.


We made our plans quickly, I rented a hotel room near where she lives a town over, and headed over there around ten after the kids had gone to bed for the night.  I picked up a six pack of beer just in case it was needed but left it in the car assuming that I would not want to have it with me.  I also grabbed a Monster as I have been completely exhausted as of late and have energy for tonight's sessions is going to be tough.


My "date" arrived late having gotten lost trying to find the hotel.  I had a book with me so I was happily reading while I was waiting.  Not a big deal.


My friend came in the door and it was knock knock, "Hey, good to see you again.".... kissing standing at the foot of the bed.  No time wasted there.  I assure you I was ready for small talk but she jumped straight to tongue action and in under twenty seconds was stripping down ready to get it on.  She left nothing for me to do, her clothes were on the floor in a flash and she was climbing in to bed.


So I got undressed and joined her in the bed.  She turned on the television, I guess for background noise but with the talk shows that she was selecting it was a bit disconcerting as the television was so close to us.  Not nearly as good as having porn on, that is for sure.


It only took a minute of sucking our her firm double D tits before my right hand slid down her stomach, spread her legs and was pushing a finger or two into her very wet and very ready pussy.  Her pussy was shaved and eager.  It was only a minute more before her first orgasm.  It has been a long time since I was last with someone who comes so quickly and easily.  Monica is not multi-orgasmic so I have adapted to that mode of sex which involved a long buildup and eventually a single, hopefully massive, orgasm that lasts and lasts when done right.  But the orgasms tonight were fast and frequent.


Throughout the evening she probably came around twenty times.  My record was making a girl come thirty-four times but that was set in around 1997 with an eighteen year old blonde that I had practice with and she only had to stop from exhaustion (hers, not mine.)  It is a nice change of pace to have the rapid orgasm experience again.


And, like the blonde girl that I so adeptly pleasured all those years ago, tonight's playmate was a squirter.  Now Monica is jealous.  She has always wanted to play with a squirter and thinks that it is so hot that I had one fifteen years ago and she has been looking for one for a long time now.  And now that I am playing with one, Monica isn't here.  It will happen eventually, but she has been wanting to try it for so long now.


The squirting was not all that intense, it was just a little bit.  My old squirting partner from the late 90s was a real pro which is hot and sexy but really messy and difficult to manage when you can't avoid it.  But I'll cover that another time.  


We had a nice time.  For a women with a kid in her early forties her body was firm and her breasts were ample.  She was actually taller than me as well, just by a little bit, and I am no short.  I'm definitely not tall, but average for a guy.


The sex was good.  I made her come from fingering her over and over and then about three times when I went down and ate her pussy.  Monica will attest to the fact that my pussy licking skills have taken a leap forward in the last few weeks.  Some recent stylistic changes and yielded impressive results so it was nice to get to test these out on a very willing new subject.


It was not a late night.  Probably two hours of sex, tops.  Once she had come... a lot, I donned my condom and put her on her hands and knees on the side of the bed so that I could stand on the floor beside the bed and penetrate her doggie style - one of my favorite positions.


Sliding my cock into her waiting, black pussy lead me to discover how small her pussy was.  And I don't mean tight, it was probably average in that regards, but it was hard to fit my cock into her as her pussy interior was small and somewhat shallow.  I had to work to squeeze myself in but she enjoyed it and soon I was pounding away on her.


She came once while I was pounding against her little black ass and then when I came the force of my orgasm sent her over edge into a thrashing orgasm of her own.  Unfortunately she lost control of her back muscles and buckled which made it impossible for me to remain inside of her as she changed the entry angle so dramatically and squeezed me out as well with her pussy muscles.


We took a bit of a breather and talked for maybe an hour.  Then she asked me to make her cum another four or five times.  We called it a night and I got dressed.  She wanted to stay and use the hotel, which I thought was rather odd as she meant staying in bed and watching television not showering and getting cleaned up, but whatever, we have the hotel might as well get use out of it I suppose.  After I was dressed and getting ready to head out the door she grabbed my hand and slid it down under the covers and asked me to get her off one last time before I left, which I did.


And that concludes my first time playing alone.  The first of many such episodes, I hope.  This also was my first time having sex with a black women.  And my first time having sex with someone older than myself.  An adventurous night.


I got home and filled Monica in on the details.  It was really late and we were tired so we fooled around for a bit in bed but didn't have sex.  We saved that for the next day.


Now that both of us have managed to play alone... we can count the experiment as a success.  - Steve

Monica's First Night Out

Tyler and I had a lot of fun together during our car meeting, and during our 3some, so we've decided that he will be a regular for as long as it suits us both.  We thought it would be fun to meet just the two of us, so Tyler invited me over to his place.  I dressed in my black thigh-high suede boots, a black lace thong, a lace zebra print bra and a short, low-cut dress (This would later become my go-to seduction outfit, lol).  When I arrived, Tyler met me in his parking garage and walked me to his apartment.  He had just worked out, so he got me settled on his couch with the T.V. remote while he showered.  When he was done, he came out and took another look at me, then asked me to stand up and turn around so that he could get a better view of my outfit.  With a "Wow, you look sexy!" he invited me to sit down next to him again and we started making out.  He told me that I looked so good he almost didn't want to undress me, but then lifted my dress over my head to grant him better access to my breasts.  My bra came off next so that he could suck on my nipples hard, the way I like it, but when he began fingering me, my panties stayed on (Tyler has a thing for panties, and likes to play with them on for as long as possible).  We made out for at least an hour with him fully clothed and me in just my panties and tall boots, which made me feel oh so naughty and very hot.  At some point, Tyler pulled me on top of him so that I was straddling him while we kissed.  He began kissing my neck and it felt so good, that I was surprised when he pulled back, looked down and said "Oh shit, Steve's gonna kill me!"  He had left an ENORMOUS hickey right where my neck meets my right shoulder.  I told him not to worry about it, and I actually liked that he felt possessive enough to mark me that way.

We moved to the bedroom so that we could have more room, and that's when I decided to take off my boots, because I didn't want to wear shoes in his bed.  He took off his clothes and joined me on the bed, and I started sucking his cock, determined that he was going to cum more than once that night.  At this point I should mention that I had gotten waxed for the first time the day before, and then waxer was rather careless about it, and ended up ripping skin off of my labia minora very near to my clit on the right side.  This put a bit of a damper on our activities, because it was still rather painful to the touch at that point.  Tyler did attempt to finger me gently enough to make me cum, but I just wasn't able to because I couldn't relax enough due to my injury.  So anyway, I sucked Tyler's cock until he blew a large load down my throat which I managed to swallow.  

We snuggled for a while and talked until Tyler rolled over and took my panties off.  After donning a condom he spread my legs and proceeded to pound me hard in missionary.  I lifted my legs up higher so that he could go deeper, and his biceps bulging, he used his arm to hold my leg in place.  I found this to be an incredibly hot move and demonstration of strength, and he was hitting my g-spot with every thrust so it felt great, but I just couldn't cum in that position.  We decided to try me riding cowgirl, and after a long time of this, Tyler came again, but stayed hard so that I could keep riding him.  When I got tired, I decided I just wasn't going to be able to cum, so after a bit more snuggling, I got dressed and Tyler walked me back to my car.

When I got home Steve was waiting for me.  We climbed into bed, and after fucking in cowgirl for a while, I asked him to do me from behind until he came.  Finally, Steve made me cum by gently using my toy after which, we snuggled up and went to sleep.

Quick Update

Hi everybody.  Yes we are still alive and still in the swing set.  As a matter of fact, we've been quite busy little bees lately, hence the significant lack of posts recently.  As a quick recap: I met Tyler at his place for the first time, Steve met his new lady friend at a motel, Tyler came over for a 3-way, I met a new guy online and he came over for some fun in our driveway (OMG SO HOT!!), that same new guy came over for a 3-way and last but not least, Tyler is scheduled to come over tonight.  Whew!  Lots to tell you all, so please stay tuned!