Watching My Wife

When Monica and I first started swinging and playing in the lifestyle I had a lot of apprehension around what it would be like watching her with or knowing that she was with other men.  Understandably, I'd never been involved in a swinger relationship before (nor had she) so no amount of "I think that I am cool with this" was going to really answer the question as to whether or not it would actually be comfortable or even enjoyable.


Now that we play regularly I can honestly say that watching another man have your wife can be fucking hot.  Seeing other men become insanely aroused wanting to do her, her getting down on her knees to please them as they thrust into her mouth and then her laying on her back, legs in the air and another man's penis plunging deep into her pussy as she pulls him onto her wanting more and more is, simply, amazing.  Sharing your wife offers a lot of potential enjoyment between watching, participating and the ancillary benefits of better, wilder and more frequent sex outside of the sharing itself.


I think one of the keys of good sharing is learning to find pleasure through your partner's pleasure.  I don't have to be the one getting directly pleased, that Monica is getting off is enjoyable for me.  And likewise she love knowing that a cute girl is giving herself over to me to have my way with.  She enjoys me enjoying sex with someone else and I enjoy her enjoying it.  And that lets us enjoy it with each other even more.  It is important that you revel in each other's conquests (or in them being a conquest) and enjoy it not just for yourself but as a team.  It keeps sharing from being something that you are "ok with" to something that you actually enjoy.


When Monica is having sex I want her to be more submissive, get slammed harder, get stretched more and put out like a crazed slut not because I want sex with others to be better than it is with me (I'm confident that it is not, different, but not better) but because I want her to be fulfilled.  There are so many ways that other men can do things that I cannot. No man can do and be everything and I don't want her to be limited to just me.  In the same way she does not want me to be limited to just her.  She's the best sex that I ever have but if we only had sex together there is so much variety to be missed.  I was to experience women of all types, all personalities and in a variety of settings and scenarios.  Monica can never be my one night stand, she can never be the girl who meets me for the first time and immediately gives me a blow job in the back seat of the car.  But she can be that for other men and other women can be that for me.


And then... just watching Monica go at it is like having my own, personal live porn show.  Can't complain there.  You can't pause but it tends to last for hours and you can jump in and partake at any time.


Am I surprised that sharing my wife ended up being so much fun and so satisfying?  Yeah, no doubt.  I had thought that I would be okay with it, but actually enjoying it was a surprise.