Saturday, September 7, 2013

Into the Groove

It has been nearly seven years since Monica and I decided that we were going to give the swinging lifestyle a try and two years since we have actively begun doing so and couldn't be happier.  The lifestyle has been great for both of us and we are so much more into it than we would ever have guessed.

We have now been actively playing for long enough that it feels like second nature.  Hooking up with someone isn't a nerve wracking anomaly, it is just a normal part of day to day life.  Having a couple come over and everyone suddenly get naked after a few drinks seems just like something that everyone must do, but I suppose that that is pretty abnormal.

I think the thing that I am most surprised by after these two years is how much swinging has just integrated into our general lifestyle.  Having someone over to play or going out to play is not different than going out for dinner.  Sometimes it is as simple as I feel like going to the bar and instead of feeling like she is getting left behind Monica can have a "friend" over and be perfectly happy for the evening.  And I enjoy getting to come home to her all warmed up and prepped for me.  Or it could be a couple comes over to hang out with us and before the night is through we've had drinks and the clothes are all over the house.  Or she wants an early night and I head over to a girlfriend's house for some fun of my own.

We really have moved "into the groove" of swinging.  It feels natural now.  Just how things are.  I would never have guessed that swinging would ever feel normal and not at all out of place, but it really does.  Other people don't do this?  Why not?  I really have no idea.  Insecurity or lack of sexual interest, I guess.  It is a great lifestyle and so comfortable and open.  Feels much more natural.

Without a doubt the biggest surprise is the transparency that has happened.  Monica and I are so much more open with each other and with our friends.  And the lifestyle is really a great name for it, because that is exactly what it is, just an extension of our lifestyle.  We don't have to think about it.  It is just who we are.

Being in the lifestyle has really opened us up to a new world of friends too.  It is amazing what a large percentage of our regular friends are people that we know because of the lifestyle.  It is a great way to meet people.  And the people that you meet are so often so great and easy going.  The nature of the lifestyle is one of being very relaxed.

It has been a great two years.  We've really grown and learned a lot about ourselves and had so much fun.  And writing this blog, as bad as we have been about keeping up with that, has been great too.  Even if in only a small way it has served as a means of documenting our journey and we have a lot of friends that read it and keep up with our changes and growth through it too.  It is great to know that we have such a supportive, extended family that is there to support and encourage us.

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