When Monica and I first started swinging and playing in the lifestyle I had a lot of apprehension around what it would be like watching her with or knowing that she was with other men. Understandably, I'd never been involved in a swinger relationship before (nor had she) so no amount of "I think that I am cool with this" was going to really answer the question as to whether or not it would actually be comfortable or even enjoyable.
Now that we play regularly I can honestly say that watching another man have your wife can be fucking hot. Seeing other men become insanely aroused wanting to do her, her getting down on her knees to please them as they thrust into her mouth and then her laying on her back, legs in the air and another man's penis plunging deep into her pussy as she pulls him onto her wanting more and more is, simply, amazing. Sharing your wife offers a lot of potential enjoyment between watching, participating and the ancillary benefits of better, wilder and more frequent sex outside of the sharing itself.
I think one of the keys of good sharing is learning to find pleasure through your partner's pleasure. I don't have to be the one getting directly pleased, that Monica is getting off is enjoyable for me. And likewise she love knowing that a cute girl is giving herself over to me to have my way with. She enjoys me enjoying sex with someone else and I enjoy her enjoying it. And that lets us enjoy it with each other even more. It is important that you revel in each other's conquests (or in them being a conquest) and enjoy it not just for yourself but as a team. It keeps sharing from being something that you are "ok with" to something that you actually enjoy.
When Monica is having sex I want her to be more submissive, get slammed harder, get stretched more and put out like a crazed slut not because I want sex with others to be better than it is with me (I'm confident that it is not, different, but not better) but because I want her to be fulfilled. There are so many ways that other men can do things that I cannot. No man can do and be everything and I don't want her to be limited to just me. In the same way she does not want me to be limited to just her. She's the best sex that I ever have but if we only had sex together there is so much variety to be missed. I was to experience women of all types, all personalities and in a variety of settings and scenarios. Monica can never be my one night stand, she can never be the girl who meets me for the first time and immediately gives me a blow job in the back seat of the car. But she can be that for other men and other women can be that for me.
And then... just watching Monica go at it is like having my own, personal live porn show. Can't complain there. You can't pause but it tends to last for hours and you can jump in and partake at any time.
Am I surprised that sharing my wife ended up being so much fun and so satisfying? Yeah, no doubt. I had thought that I would be okay with it, but actually enjoying it was a surprise.
Wednesday, July 4, 2012
Tuesday, July 3, 2012
Lonely with Threesome
Monica is out of town for a while so I am stuck home alone, um, taking care of myself, if you will. While you might think that this would give me an extended opportunity to go out and do some playing of my own, in reality that doesn't happen very much. Without Monica at home I am less motivated to go out and more likely to pop in a video game or just chat online. I seem to lose motivation.
I am not totally unmotivated, however. I spent one of my first nights home along hanging out online seeing who was out and about. I ended up chatting with a girl who suddenly said, "I can't get together tonight but I'm really hoping that we can get together soon. I've been wanting to get with you for a while."
That took me by surprise. Turns out I was talking to the female half of a couple that we know, online, by way of one of our friends with whom Monica plays. He had told them about us and they were interested in getting together. He wants Monica, obviously, and she wanted to get with me.
It didn't take long before things went from talk to action. That first night she was too busy for us to get together but the very next night they contacted me and asked me to come right over because she was horny and needed servicing. I wasn't exactly expecting any action that night but figured that passing up an opportunity is never wise. Especially an opportunity that comes with references. So I quickly got ready and ran on over there. They live not far away. Less than twenty minutes.
We ended up having a really good time just hanging out. They are serious swingers with an outrageous sex setup. Inflatable bed in the living room, big screen television above the bed setup to show a combination of live sex chatting (done from a laptop) and live sex cam shows. Plus couches ready to go with protective coverings for a variety of sex positions in one easy to use room. Very nice, but not so discrete. There is no hiding what activities go on here unless you have some warning to clean everything up. But very nice for stopping by for fun.
We ended up getting along famously and talked for several hours. We were getting along so well that we almost forgot about having sex. Well, okay that is a bit of an exaggeration but we did take way too long getting around to it. It was probably ten when I got over there and easily one in the morning or later when we did anything more than just sit around talking. That's too long from "Hey I'm Steve, nice to meet you" to "and look, now her panties are on the floor." I need to work on speeding up that process in the future. A little less talk and a lot more action is a good motto.
To get things transitioned from talking to action, she got up off of the recliner that she had been sitting in and moved over to the bed in the middle of the living room, making clear space for me and making eyes at me to indicate that she wasn't just heading over to take a nap. I think part of the mistake was that she was in a recliner and I sat on the couch and the combination kept us too far apart. When Monica has a guy over they take the couch so that they can "inch closer" and I take the easy chair. Let's them work up to it more easily. Instead whenever he and I were talking I ended up practically having my back to her. That did little as a warm up situation.
Once she was on the bed, still fully clothed, I moved over and sat beside her. We were all still chatting but this gave me a chance to start running my hand up and down the back of her thighs as she was laying on her stomach on the air mattress. It was easy to tell that she liked the feel of my hand on her thigh and I have to admit that her thigh felt pretty good too. A quick slip up her shorts confirmed that she was, indeed, enjoying me touching her.
Once I had verified how moist she was, she instantly stripped down and was ready for some immediate action. I started undressing as well. He stripped down but stayed on the couch with his laptop. He said that he had to work but he was distracted between chatting with people online and watching me getting busy with his girlfriend.
Now this is a first for me. I'm not sure if this really qualifies as a threesome as there are actually only two parties involved. So this is more of girlfriend sharing with a voyeur for the most part. Or like a threesome where he sits out the whole time. So I'm not sure if I was actually a bull in this situation or not. I guess I am not yet down with all of the possible terminology to easily define exactly what the situation was. But regardless, this is a new scenario for me.
Monica and I have been involved in a lot of MFM threesomes this past year but in every case I am always the husband and the "home town" team. The other guy is always the visitor. It is always me sharing Monica. This was the first time where I was the visitor to another couple and she was being shared with me. It wasn't too awkward at all, we've been doing this long enough that that is no problem, but it was different, to be sure.
I fingered her a bit and she was certainly enjoying what I was doing. That is one thing with Monica, no matter how long we have been together, I just don't have the skills to slip my fingers in and drive her wild quickly. It just doesn't happen. But most any other girl I am with I just slip a few digits in and I apparently have the right moves to drive them crazy. Monica can get off to me fingering her but it takes a long time and quite a bit of work and she does not enjoy it nearly as much as other things.
Once we were both naked and she was in the throws of delight I slipped my dick into her mouth and went down to lick her pussy. Some quick sixty-nining laying on our sides with me semi-propped up so I was sort of on top but more beside her. We didn't do too much oral. She was ready for penetration pretty quickly and I was hardly going to complain. I prefer oral the most but no one does it like Monica so I get all of the amazing oral that I want whenever I want.
In a flash I was on my back and she was aggressively mounting me. I had thought ahead and had condoms with me so we sheathed my penis and lickity split (pun intended) she was on top letting it slip up into her as she slid down my pole. She had no issue taking the whole thing very quickly.
She did a great job riding me cowgirl for quite a while with him watching from the couch stroking to us fucking. She liked it hard with me grabbing her hips and thrusting very hard up into her as deep as I could get it. A bit violent..... grabbing her around the waist and pulling her down onto me while I tried to see just how much penetration I could do.
After a while she flipped and moved to reverse cowgirl. Reverse is a lot more work but ads the enjoyment of getting to really watch what is going on. You get a lot more view than, say, even doggie style. I worked hard to keep up the deep, powerful thrusting that was making her so happy. That is rather a challenge to do in that position. But I enjoy the position as a change of pace.
After some time on the bed we wanted something a little more forceful so we got up and moved over to the edge of the couch and bent her over. He held her head down on his lap while I got up behind her and took her from behind. And took her hard from behind. It was exhausting keeping that thrusting up. But it was good. She came a lot.
We took a breather because I was sweating hard and needed a few minutes to cool down and collect myself. I grabbed a whiskey and she went for the chair. But before I could cool off she had passed out and was asleep. She had come several times so no problem there. I had done my job. I didn't cum myself but I had had a very good time and could finished myself off at home. It was nearly four in the morning and way too late to go for anything additional so we called it a night.
I am not totally unmotivated, however. I spent one of my first nights home along hanging out online seeing who was out and about. I ended up chatting with a girl who suddenly said, "I can't get together tonight but I'm really hoping that we can get together soon. I've been wanting to get with you for a while."
That took me by surprise. Turns out I was talking to the female half of a couple that we know, online, by way of one of our friends with whom Monica plays. He had told them about us and they were interested in getting together. He wants Monica, obviously, and she wanted to get with me.
It didn't take long before things went from talk to action. That first night she was too busy for us to get together but the very next night they contacted me and asked me to come right over because she was horny and needed servicing. I wasn't exactly expecting any action that night but figured that passing up an opportunity is never wise. Especially an opportunity that comes with references. So I quickly got ready and ran on over there. They live not far away. Less than twenty minutes.
We ended up having a really good time just hanging out. They are serious swingers with an outrageous sex setup. Inflatable bed in the living room, big screen television above the bed setup to show a combination of live sex chatting (done from a laptop) and live sex cam shows. Plus couches ready to go with protective coverings for a variety of sex positions in one easy to use room. Very nice, but not so discrete. There is no hiding what activities go on here unless you have some warning to clean everything up. But very nice for stopping by for fun.
We ended up getting along famously and talked for several hours. We were getting along so well that we almost forgot about having sex. Well, okay that is a bit of an exaggeration but we did take way too long getting around to it. It was probably ten when I got over there and easily one in the morning or later when we did anything more than just sit around talking. That's too long from "Hey I'm Steve, nice to meet you" to "and look, now her panties are on the floor." I need to work on speeding up that process in the future. A little less talk and a lot more action is a good motto.
To get things transitioned from talking to action, she got up off of the recliner that she had been sitting in and moved over to the bed in the middle of the living room, making clear space for me and making eyes at me to indicate that she wasn't just heading over to take a nap. I think part of the mistake was that she was in a recliner and I sat on the couch and the combination kept us too far apart. When Monica has a guy over they take the couch so that they can "inch closer" and I take the easy chair. Let's them work up to it more easily. Instead whenever he and I were talking I ended up practically having my back to her. That did little as a warm up situation.
Once she was on the bed, still fully clothed, I moved over and sat beside her. We were all still chatting but this gave me a chance to start running my hand up and down the back of her thighs as she was laying on her stomach on the air mattress. It was easy to tell that she liked the feel of my hand on her thigh and I have to admit that her thigh felt pretty good too. A quick slip up her shorts confirmed that she was, indeed, enjoying me touching her.
Once I had verified how moist she was, she instantly stripped down and was ready for some immediate action. I started undressing as well. He stripped down but stayed on the couch with his laptop. He said that he had to work but he was distracted between chatting with people online and watching me getting busy with his girlfriend.
Now this is a first for me. I'm not sure if this really qualifies as a threesome as there are actually only two parties involved. So this is more of girlfriend sharing with a voyeur for the most part. Or like a threesome where he sits out the whole time. So I'm not sure if I was actually a bull in this situation or not. I guess I am not yet down with all of the possible terminology to easily define exactly what the situation was. But regardless, this is a new scenario for me.
Monica and I have been involved in a lot of MFM threesomes this past year but in every case I am always the husband and the "home town" team. The other guy is always the visitor. It is always me sharing Monica. This was the first time where I was the visitor to another couple and she was being shared with me. It wasn't too awkward at all, we've been doing this long enough that that is no problem, but it was different, to be sure.
I fingered her a bit and she was certainly enjoying what I was doing. That is one thing with Monica, no matter how long we have been together, I just don't have the skills to slip my fingers in and drive her wild quickly. It just doesn't happen. But most any other girl I am with I just slip a few digits in and I apparently have the right moves to drive them crazy. Monica can get off to me fingering her but it takes a long time and quite a bit of work and she does not enjoy it nearly as much as other things.
Once we were both naked and she was in the throws of delight I slipped my dick into her mouth and went down to lick her pussy. Some quick sixty-nining laying on our sides with me semi-propped up so I was sort of on top but more beside her. We didn't do too much oral. She was ready for penetration pretty quickly and I was hardly going to complain. I prefer oral the most but no one does it like Monica so I get all of the amazing oral that I want whenever I want.
In a flash I was on my back and she was aggressively mounting me. I had thought ahead and had condoms with me so we sheathed my penis and lickity split (pun intended) she was on top letting it slip up into her as she slid down my pole. She had no issue taking the whole thing very quickly.
She did a great job riding me cowgirl for quite a while with him watching from the couch stroking to us fucking. She liked it hard with me grabbing her hips and thrusting very hard up into her as deep as I could get it. A bit violent..... grabbing her around the waist and pulling her down onto me while I tried to see just how much penetration I could do.
After a while she flipped and moved to reverse cowgirl. Reverse is a lot more work but ads the enjoyment of getting to really watch what is going on. You get a lot more view than, say, even doggie style. I worked hard to keep up the deep, powerful thrusting that was making her so happy. That is rather a challenge to do in that position. But I enjoy the position as a change of pace.
After some time on the bed we wanted something a little more forceful so we got up and moved over to the edge of the couch and bent her over. He held her head down on his lap while I got up behind her and took her from behind. And took her hard from behind. It was exhausting keeping that thrusting up. But it was good. She came a lot.
We took a breather because I was sweating hard and needed a few minutes to cool down and collect myself. I grabbed a whiskey and she went for the chair. But before I could cool off she had passed out and was asleep. She had come several times so no problem there. I had done my job. I didn't cum myself but I had had a very good time and could finished myself off at home. It was nearly four in the morning and way too late to go for anything additional so we called it a night.
Monday, July 2, 2012
Catching Up, Getting Comfortable
Wow, we have been terrible about keeping the blog up to date. Since our last updates we have been playing rather extensively and traveling extensively too (no connection between the two) and keeping the site updated just fell to the wayside. At least one or two of our "real life" readers commented on the lack of updates so I am attempting to rectify that, even if only to a slight degree. Party why we fell behind is because Monica had updates to provide and I felt that she needed to write those before I wrote stuff that happened later and then, once we had fallen behind... well... it just snowballs on you.
I'll do my best to coax Monica into filling in more of the details of her escapades. As expected, she has had many more than I have but we have both been having a very good time. We have hit a sort of rhythm of regular playing at this point with mostly regular people. While hitting a "rhythm" might sound not so exciting, and certainly makes writing updates a little more difficult, it is anything but pedestrian.
Much like sex with a new partner - where at first it is hot because it is new and later it is hot because it is good because you have learned how to please each other - sex with others seems to have a similar pattern. There is a partner by partner pattern of getting better at being with each other as habits vary pretty widely between "players". One wants to kiss, one doesn't. One is wham bam and out of there, another wants to stay and hang out. Some want condoms, some don't. Learning who is who and how they operate and what makes them comfortable and not moves you from "nervous and new" to "comfortable and experienced." New is good, comfortable is generally better. The advantage of this lifestyle is that you need not sacrifice new for experience. We get to have both.
Beyond the partner by partner pattern there is a more general pattern of becoming comfortable in the lifestyle. Meeting new people becomes less and less scary and awkward and soon you settle into a "this is who we are when having sex with other people." You know who you are and how you behave. You get an idea of what to expect from other people. As you become more comfortable they become more comfortable. Soon you move from "playing in the lifestyle" being new and scary to it being comfortable and you get better at it. We are already into that stage. And it is much better.
I'll do my best to coax Monica into filling in more of the details of her escapades. As expected, she has had many more than I have but we have both been having a very good time. We have hit a sort of rhythm of regular playing at this point with mostly regular people. While hitting a "rhythm" might sound not so exciting, and certainly makes writing updates a little more difficult, it is anything but pedestrian.
Much like sex with a new partner - where at first it is hot because it is new and later it is hot because it is good because you have learned how to please each other - sex with others seems to have a similar pattern. There is a partner by partner pattern of getting better at being with each other as habits vary pretty widely between "players". One wants to kiss, one doesn't. One is wham bam and out of there, another wants to stay and hang out. Some want condoms, some don't. Learning who is who and how they operate and what makes them comfortable and not moves you from "nervous and new" to "comfortable and experienced." New is good, comfortable is generally better. The advantage of this lifestyle is that you need not sacrifice new for experience. We get to have both.
Beyond the partner by partner pattern there is a more general pattern of becoming comfortable in the lifestyle. Meeting new people becomes less and less scary and awkward and soon you settle into a "this is who we are when having sex with other people." You know who you are and how you behave. You get an idea of what to expect from other people. As you become more comfortable they become more comfortable. Soon you move from "playing in the lifestyle" being new and scary to it being comfortable and you get better at it. We are already into that stage. And it is much better.
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